The Path to Happy Relationships Summary Since humans are social animals, and our life circumstances generally require interactions with other people, it's worth making an effort to improve our relationships.  Good relationship skills enhance all of our connections and lead to success and happiness. The most important step is to recognize the only thing we can change is ourselves.  Knowing we can change our beliefs, and through them, change our perceptions and our feelings gives us the power to transform our lives.  We can adopt attitudes and take actions that enhance our relationships.  And we can back out of relationships which don't serve us. I apply this personally by being interested in other people, and willing to accept them as they are.  I enjoy learning what they think and believe.  I create opportunities to spend time with people whose company I enjoy, who add to my life.  When I have negative feelings about someone, I look for the beliefs in myself that are leading me to those feelings, often taking a few minutes to use the worksheet attached.  In my marriage, I choose to believe I am very lucky to share my life with this special person, and I treasure every minute we have together.  I am comfortable being myself with him, including pursuing interests that he doesn't share.  I try not to believe I need my husband to complete my life (which would make me feel needy and dependent and afraid I couldn't survive if something happened to him), but I do believe that his presence in my life enhances my joy and happiness. In The Five Things We Cannot Change…and the Happiness We Find by Embracing Them, David Richo says "I am now more careful … not to become the CIA: Critic, Interpreter, and Advisor.  We can make it a spiritual practice not to criticize others' behavior, not to interpret what they do according to our worldview, and not to advise unless we are invited to do so.  Eliminating these three behaviors from our repertory, especially with partners and family members, makes our communication much more loving and respectful.  The five essential qualities of genuine love--attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing (what I call the five A's)--do not survive well with the CIA in pursuit." Resources The Path to Happy Relationships Worksheet Communications For Greater Happiness Worksheet “If you ask for what you want, and accept what you receive, you will get what you need.” - Molly L. Stranahan, Your Guide on the Path to Happiness Contact Info Site Privacy Policy Content Copyright © 2010 Our feelings are the result of the stories we tell ourselves. . . Change your story - change your feelings - change your life!